When most of us think of parenting we think of instruction, direction, financial aid and protection from a variety of consequences.
It shouldn’t surprise any of us, then, to find out that parenting an active addict is definitely “contrary to the norm.”
Addiction is not a condition brought on by a lack of ethics, morals and character. Rather, the degeneration of these fine qualities is what happens once addiction, including physical dependence and withdrawal, sets in.
As parents, we all want to “fix” bad situations and help consequences be avoided for our offspring, but in the case of addiction, this is exactly the wrong thing to do.
As the need for a substance becomes physical and painful more and more decisions are made by the addict that contradict the ethics and character they displayed before dependence. The center of their life becomes pursuit and use of their chosen substance.